The differences - Why it disturbs me ?

I walk across a shopping mall and i see the audis and mercedes zoom fast the roads , opposite lie there many homeless folks sleeping on the road . I wonder how they manage their life everyday living like this? No home to go - Imagine being homeless , no food -no proper clothes!! I take my son out for a treat and there comes 2 boys one much younger to him and one a little older to him , Without wearing proper foot wear, walking bare foot in this chennai heat -they are selling us stickers and coloring books and all we can buy i some of it to help them - I decided to invite them for the lunch treat with us and stopped the restaurant guys from shooing them away saying they have come with us . But again after that meal -they are back to the street in the same hot sun to sell the books left behind My maid walks in often with some marks of her domestic abuse , how much ever i help her -She has to depend on this man to live the rest of her life - i keep thinking to myself -how is it possible for her to live her life everyday with a man who makes her unhappy Again - This is the daily life and the circle continues -but it is bothering me every time i encounter this situation Is it me -am i too weak to turn a blind eye to all these differences that is happening in our society ? Or is it all of us who all ignore such incidents and forget about it the next day ? Why does these differences affect me so much - I dont know!!

I love you no less my son!

Dear Vidhaath -I did not spend all my time gazing at your peaceful baby face as i did for your brother, I did not click every move of yours and record every milestone of yours, I did not write a poem for you, I did not create an email id for you, I did not register a website for you, I did not blog about you still !! I did not take you for pram walks everyday, I did not maintain a food dairy , I did not rave a lot about your cuteness to my friends, I did not even take you on a proper holiday. But i did not love you any less baby!!! You are loved as much as i can love anyone!!! Love you Vidhaath

My first blog of this year!!

I can't belive that i have not blogged in this brand new year . 2014 has been a very challenging yet enjoyable year Starting with saying a bye to my work place -temporarily though to spending a lot of time with Vihaan in February to suddenly not being able to focus on him with the arrival of Vidhaath -My youngest son -March was tiring indeed. Just when i thought being back with Vihaan is going to make things alright - I had the toughest time in accepting his frustations of his unexplainagble feelings If only i could read his mind -As a mother , my heart broke to see him sad for a few days - What all they go through so much insecurities in sharing the love with another person . No wonder they termed it "Sibling Jealousy/Rivalry " It is not easy on a mother as inspite trying to focus all her energy on an older child -she still needs to take care of the baby who needs her most of the times -And sometimes i feel i am hardly around for the baby just to make the older one feel very secure Tough times indeed -Wishing i could clone myself and keep switching between both the boys And hoping the day will soon arrive when i can comfortably play with both of them together without any worries

Navratri 2013

Navratri comes with its own charm of golu,kutcheris,temple visits and what not!! One of those times where i dont miss visiting the temple I was delighted to see the Amman in various forms for all the 9 days and it becomes like a countdown for me to guess and wait to see what will be her form that day and trying to learn what forms those avatarams meant too And interesting part are the golu visits where everyone tries to portray their favorite stories through their golu I did learn a little about parts of ramanyana and wonder why no one chooses mahabaratam storied in golu displays Taking Vihaan to the Anantha padmanabasamy temple was like a ritual in itself and bonus was when one trip his friend Kimaya joined in And it was lovely to have some of my friends home for vathilai paaku custom Navratri makes me feel like a traditional complete woman in this modern world where you dont often feel that way Hope i enjoy the navratris to come and look forward to my very own Golu Navratri:-)

Someday!!

Someday - I will visit the USA ...Someday i will attend my School re union!! Someday -I will get back to Dancing ...Some day -I shall take my dad for a movie ...Someday -I shall do scuba diving Someday -I will throw a surprise party for my mother ..someday -i will do a trip with my sister ..someday -i will do a girls nite out ..someday - i will watch back to back movies ..Someday i will be at the beach in Sujay's arms to watch the sun rise ..Someday i will write a book for Vihaan to cherish his mother's history..Someday i will blog ..and here the blog's some day arrived and what about the rest of all the some daysssss!!! Wish i see all these somedaysssss!!!!

How can we even debate on this Juveline topic?

My angst increases as i keep reading every rape incident accused family raising a query that the so & so accused was a minor etc and hate to see the debates going on forums , papers and media on whether it is okay to reduce punishment for an accused on a rape incident citing he is a minor !!! Ridiculous i say -just think if your daughter or wife was the victim -would you still accept this verdict? And what is worse that the minor had the B**** to rape and why not get punished - now why is the age becoming a factor to support them .If this is the case then every rape accused has a chance to go scott free as given how money can buy everything in this day -they can easily buy a age proof id to show they are a minor! Minor or Major -Rape is the most cruel & heinous crime a man can commit and this deserves a capital punishment that should teach him a lesson of his life time for comitting the worst act of his life !!! My heart goes out to Nirbhaya's parents who wear in tears to hear the verdict and will really pray that they fight until they get justice for Nirbhaya!

Being a woman!!!

Finally managed to write my blog post from my phone. whoa!! i wanted to write just about being a woman. Though the 21st century woman has more freedom than her ancestors,still some things have not changed for woman-not that am complaining about it-just concerned! some instances that remind me of how woman are still not on equal path would be typically a marriage or work scenario. i find it funny that still people have that upperhand feeling ifthey are from boy's side.And if girl's side makes their presence felt ,they would be termed as dominating family. i still remember some folks trying to sound suprised that there was no dowry or diamond demand for my wedding.And we are acting surprised and shocked for such normal situations -then is this about being equal? thank god for some sensible men in families that woman voices are heard but there are still woman who slog and clean toilets to earn their daily bread as husbands are busy drinking away to glory! Being a woman ia still not a blessing if you are born into a narrow minded or poor families where the family look at how much they have to spend on you and end of the day you wont earn back for them. But the good news is things are definitely changing but bad news is the pace and place at which it changes. On the contrary ,there are also woman who take the advancement and support system created to safeguard them for granted like the n number of false sexual harrasment /dowry harrasment accusations.Having gone through one such false allegation as a family myself - Where are the real womanly qualities of compassion ,care and tolerance ?? Did they just disappear in name of equality . I guess we need to draw a line between being equal and having the upper hand . If all women were to think of being the real Bharathi's Pudumai Pen begins in realizing your worth and creating equality around you for everyone including men and not in wearing miniskirts or sporting a bob cut and smoking away to show you have the freedom! Hope the Woman in you flourish for the better !! Happy Woman's Day:-)