என் தாய் மொழி தமிழ் பற்றி

On my recent trip to munnar ,we stayed at the tea castle . The security guard of the hotel was delighted and his face glowed when i asked him a few questions in tamizh.
He was like " madame , neenga tamizha?? " .I was like very produly "ammam- neengalumaa??" He was so happy to interact in tamizh and he told me he mistook me for a north indian and assumed i wud speak hindi or english .He also added that even if people knew tamizh -they preferred to speak in hindi or english .I was thinking in my mind ..is it a good trend or should we actually feel great to being a global citizen. There is no harm in being more westernised and talking english but the problem lies in loosing the passion for our mother tongue.Am not asking for a a dharna and attacks like the shiv sena's do going about promoting marathi .but i ask every one of you -a tamizhan to realise -where is your interest gone is peaking your mother tongue .As many of the people i met in this vacation came up with the same kind of surprised face when they heard me speaking tamizh .The tea estate workers at munnar too could not help but rejoice that they met tamizh speaking people after a long time and the irony is many visitors who visit munnar are from CHENNAI !!! and can u imagine that they don't speak tamizh..(i assumed that it was foreigners or people from the north ) well , this made me think of a lot of other things ...
Developing a passion for your mother tongue cannot be forced into people by the government . But they can be developed from one's childhood .I think my passion towards tamizh is firstly because am born in this land and i studied this language from school .But the biggest mistake a lot of parents do here in tamiz nadu is that , they enroll their children in hindi or french classes and where can u expect your children to grow up in to people with a passion for your mother tongue .
Also , my father always read out one thirukural to me everyday .I cant tell you how much value that has added to my life and my outlook towards life .Everytime something happens , i remind myself of the kurals that i have read about.I remember travelling in government buses during school days and memorising every thirukural written on the CHERAN bus.Also i hate it when some tamilians think it's a FAD to speak English and that is their identity of being westernised .I feel being western is more to do with your outlook towards life and people and not the dress you wear or the hair cut you have or going pub hopping n getting sloshed .The west have taught us many a good things .But why is that we want to copy all the wrong things ??
Why not the good ones ?? Most of them speak only their mother tongue at home !!!!
Am not saying boycott English ..English was my favourite class in school ..i loved the non detail part all the shakespear tales etc but that did not make me loose my passion for TAMIZH .And that is what am trying to blog about.And how can i forget the hypocrisy of the politicians .They have so many rules in the tamil nadu government ..like movie title names ( and that is still just name sake and merely to get the tax benefit -The Boss became SIVAJI ,THE BOSS -still it had english !!!)
top ranker's recognition only for tamizh students etc ...but they harp about boycotting other languages when their own grandchildren are studying overseas .why all this fuss when your own is not following what you preach??

If they had true passion for the language -they would have acted in many other ways to promote the language .Just doing a chennai sangamam is not the way to promote your tamizh language and culture .If you think , there are many other ways too!!


And SAD is the word to read some of the tamizh ads or articles .That is the plight of our TAMIZH NADU -at least ,chennai !!!

And lets take a look at some of the TN/chennai's varied fields and evaluate their TAMIZH background/knowledge

Superstar -Fron Karnataka (atleast he speaks very good tamizh)
CSK captain -From Jharkand (can he speak TAMIZH??)
No 1 heroines in Tamil Films -From Kerala or Andhra(and the chennai ones also cant speak or dub in TAMIZH)
Top Singers -From Bollywood (who kill the tamizh pronunciation & the language )
Music Directors - Most of them from Kerala /Andhra
Top Business Men - You can count the TAMIZH guysssss

I don't think this will be the situation in anyother state !!
I dont know if we should hyprocitically say Chennai is more INDIAN -we dont bother
about the native or background of the people who represent us ...I dont think that can come from many of us -can it ?? Am not saying we should become like the Telangana but lets not be the reason for TAMIZH and TAMIZH culture to disappear
from taking any leads in our own state atleast !!

What more people?? When we speak about this ..all they will have to say is
வந்தோரை வாழ வைக்கும் தமிழ் நாடு . But let them live here happily but not kill our language and our traditions .They also tend to takeaway the opportunity of many more capable people from the very own land and let us not LET THAT HAPPEN !!!

What makes news?

I was having my tea and a colleague of mine asked me -did you see the news on the sex scandal of swami nithyananda? I was wondering what was that all about and ignored the subject completely .Only this afternoon , i realised that it has become headlines for many of the television channels .Also heard about the video which shows him in a compromising position with an actress etc .Why the hell the TV channels show such videos on TV which is meant for all category of audiences.I wonder how many of them are so selfishly motivated to spread these news which are of
least importance .If they were to say , they are educating the innocent public about
dangerous men in swamiji avatar-is this the first time that this is happening?
How many times have we come across the same type of news.

I clearly see ,the Television Channels are only concerned about their TRP ratings.
They just want more and more people to watch their programmes .This is so evident when i realise that Ashaji's comment on "mumbai belongs to all " has not become a headline on all of them as you see she is not hot or is not as famous as SRK.Also wonder why there was no repeat telecast of what is happening in Shimoga ?? Because it's not a terrorist attack or is it because it's not mumbai?? huh !!

Most of the television channels these days want only-TRP ratings -THAT'S IT

Gone are the days when media played a role on being the face of the common man and showcased what is happening in the society without taking a side and wanting justice

Cadaver?

Have you ever heard this word before ? Am sure most of us don't know what it means.
Well , a dictionary meaning would be dead body but medically a cadaver can give back life to so many people .it's just that we are not aware and even the government has not created much awareness on the same .

I was curious to know more and read a little bit .On reading i understood that a cadaver body can actually give back so many people a healthy life .All of us generally think that only our eyes can be donated .But the heart, eyes ,liver, kidney
and even skin can be donated to another person to save their lives .If we had a proper organ donation policy in place , am sure there can be many more lives that could be saved today .For the number of road accident death that happen - we can save nearly about a 1000 lives everyday (in India alone).Just that none of us is very much aware of this program .Also the less awareness , the more reactive we will
become when we are in that situation when we have lost someone as that moment , we would not be able to think of offering a closed one's body for an organ donation.
But if we understood in depth of how a heart transplant or a kidney transplant can entirely change someone's life,we may come forward to do so .

Hope cadaver organ donation becomes a much more known topic to everyone soon.
Am doing my bit by blogging about it right now :-)

Also professionaly i have some plans on the same .Crossing my fingers that it should take off well and get implemented as i have it on my mind .

Once am successful in enrolling myself for an organ donation program - i shall blog about that too !

"Bones" Rocks !!!

After a long time , am regularly following a T V Show.It is so interesting and
i get stuck to the idiot box when it is time for Bones in star world.

I did not even know that FBI has such medical driven investigations. Some of the episodes make me go awestruck .Its like watching a thriller everyday ..
I enjoy it so much that i try and stay awake till 12 to get a sneak view of every new episode as mostly i miss the 8pm time slot .The actors who appear on the TV show are simply superb and perform like as if they are real FBI agents :-)
Many episodes will leave you with mysteries which you just cannot guess and the way the plot gets unfolded is brilliant ..

I have to write more about Bones -once i get to watch it regularly !

Depressing Days of my life !

I have never been this depressed in life ..yes in thirty years....am so depressed
now that i end up breaking so often .

My only comfort right now is Vihaan and i feel so bad about being depressed when he is around.After all the few hours that i spend with him , this is not the face that i want him to see -a depressed mamma ...

Thought me writing about my angst, upsetness and low feelings can help me get out of this low life condition . Dunno where the happy viji has gone ....
why is that my happy days does not exist for more than one whole day .
I think i put my heart and soul into everything i do , i try to be a perfectionist , i want to be nice to everyone and the biggest mistake is -i expect all this from outside too .Then what will remain -all anger and upsetness only

Why should everyone be nice to me ? why will everyone do things the way i do it ..huh ..

Such a late realisation !!

And off late i realise am just not connected to the outside world .I have stopped talking to friends , my sister (my biggest strength in times of trouble )and even my gakkai friends . Dunno why i have build a shell outside me ...is this all because am unhappy or am i unhappy because i am becoming a closed person ?

Dunno -let me find some answers soon !

Being a working mommy :-(

It's not been easy leaving the cutie pie behind at home and come to work.The very first day of joining back work ,I felt like a school kid leaving his mamma's hands to go to school with eyes full of tears.Guess , here it was a role reversal as vihaan was the happy one giving his toothless smiles when i felt :-(

Wonder how woman can manage their career and children with ease.Its no easy task for me as i have not even started learning this art yet ! I wonder how my mom managed her work , can't beleive that she put in even twelve hours of night duty when we were little children .Kudos to her , My respect for her has grown by leaps and bounds after i became a mother :-)

i dont know if Vihaan misses me or not , but i surely do .If i put in eight hours at work , fours hours are gone thinking about him and what he would be doing :-P
How i wish he can talk and tell me " mamma , i miss so much when u r at work "
Well may be -it's better that he is not yet talking as you never know if i will be able to step out of home after hearing him say this to me ...

Women are made so different . I dont know why we are not able to handle jobs the way men do .After a baby , every woman goes through many a guilt trips and being at work away from baby is just another one !!

Guess it is all because of the umblical cord connection -you feel like you have left a part of you behind at home and tere you are sitting at work !

Emmm...let me see how long i cope with this or if i will grow out of this feeling soon. Now,moi is rushing to see my little darling Vihaan

TUTLI BECOMES VIHAAN SUJAY

After how long am here ..gosh i felt like as if i did not have a life of my own once the brat came out...

I can make a movie or write a story book to encourage all women who go thru a delayed
delivery in the sense ..TUTLI arrived very very late ..that too without giving his mom any sign of labour pains ..oops...i was admitted to get induced :-( IT WAS A PAINFUL DAY but it was all worth it ...as the saying goes -no pain ,no gain -so true!

I was getting anxious ..it was almost a week beyond the due date but what you hear from most of the women are that they had their baby before their due date ..this always kept me in worrysome state ...finally after a days admission that nite ..i got my labour pain , honestly wished i had a boy as i cant see my gal go thru this in later stage ..
and it was a BOY....Pappa dear was hoping it was TASHA SUJAY , but it was VIHAAN SUJAY!

The doc, nurse everyone at First med hospital was too good ...i cant imagine bringing him out if not for them -THEY WERE ALL AMAZING ..and my doc -she is a true GODDESS !
Though our hospital stay was scary as swine flu scare occupied every story and talks - i enjoyed every moment of those initial days watching the cutie pie...how tiny his fingers were...how small he was ...so cute and sweet ...my heart ached when they told me he had jaundiced and it literally broke when i saw him under the photo therapy lights with his eyes tied..Hats off to moms who have special children ..what they must be going thru ..gosh u need all the courage in the world to raise a baby and watch him hurt himself and grow -hope i get some soon as i am still the scary ,over protective mom (well..cant expect a 2 month mom to be a THAGDA)

TUTLI has filled our lives with joy and he has made me fall in love all over again with my Sujay after seeing the doting appa in him....did not expect in the wildest of my dreams that sujay is gonna be such a doting dad...amazing ..am enjoying every bit of his action when we are around with TUTLI...

Vihaan is adorable and now he needs me ..so i will continue my romance with the key board later .....!!!